KimYaps
KimYaps is where Kiminou Knox talks through faith, Black boyhood, masculinity, relationships, culture, grief, discipline, purpose, love, and the parts of life people usually struggle to say plainly. Listen to every episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and YouTube.
"Protecting My Peace" Is Making You Lonely
2026-09-25. It's another late night, and I'm not going to lie to you. I am tired of hearing "I'm just protecting my peace." Are you protecting your peace? Or are you avoiding the real issues you don't want to face? In this episode, Kiminou Knox breaks down the difference between guarding your peace and dodging accountability. Protecting your peace is not always about removing people. Sometimes it is about doing the inner work...
You're Useful to Everyone Except Yourself
2026-09-24. In this late-night episode of KimYaps, host Kiminou Knox breaks down the Utility Trap — why so many of us confuse being needed with being loved. If you stopped fixing everybody's problems tomorrow, would they still call? Kiminou Knox gets honest about building your whole identity around being useful: the human flatbed truck everybody dials when they need hauling, but nobody checks on. He tells the story of his Ken...
Do You Like Me, or Do You Like Being Liked?
2026-09-20. The conversation delves into the complexities of modern dating, exploring the ambiguity and evasiveness prevalent in relationships. It highlights the challenges of navigating undefined connections and the emotional toll it takes on individuals. Takeaways Ambiguity in modern dating The emotional toll of undefined connections Chapters 00:00 The Modern Dating Scene 02:07 The Twilight Zone of Relationships 05:58 The W...
Why Am I the Only One Dancing? Slow Burns, Breadcrumbing & Reciprocity | KimYaps
2026-09-20. The conversation delves into the complexities of modern dating and relationships, exploring themes of maturity, patience, and reciprocity. It challenges the romanticization of emotional unavailability and yearning, emphasizing the importance of engagement and reciprocation in relationships. The slowburn dilemma is dissected, highlighting the need for genuine movement and reciprocity in romantic connections. Takeaw...
GO WHERE YOU’RE APPRECIATED, NOT WHERE YOU’RE TOLERATED
2026-09-10. GO WHERE YOU’RE APPRECIATED, NOT WHERE YOU’RE TOLERATED | KIMYAPS What does it actually mean to be appreciated in a relationship? In this episode of KimYaps, Kiminou takes a phrase that sounds simple on Instagram and pulls it apart in real life: the difference between being loved, being needed, being tolerated, and actually feeling like your presence matters. From perceived partner responsiveness and rejection sen...
ANOTHER TUESDAY: TURNING 20, NASTY 19, AND THE MYTH OF GROWING UP
2026-09-10. ANOTHER TUESDAY: TURNING 20, NASTY 19, AND THE MYTH OF GROWING UP I turn 20 in 23 days. Ew. There’s something about losing the “teen” at the end of your age that makes adulthood suddenly sound way more official than it actually feels. Nineteen still gives you an alibi. You make a terrible decision? You’re 19. Fall in love after three conversations at 2 in the morning? Nineteen. Spend money you absolutely should’ve...
God Knows Your Heart. Are You Sure That’s Good News?
2026-09-03. Everybody loves saying, “God knows my heart.” Okay. But have you ever actually thought about what that means? In this episode of KimYaps, Kiminou sits with the first five verses of Proverbs 21 and somehow ends up everywhere from basketball coaches and controlling parents to gossiping aunties, pride, procrastination, worship, and the little stories we tell ourselves so we can keep believing we were right. Because y...
Does God Actually Hate Gay People?
2026-09-03. What does Christianity actually mean when it calls homosexuality a sin, and why has the church done such a terrible job explaining it? In this episode of KimYaps, Kiminou talks through homosexuality, sexual acts, attraction, identity, the circle of life, sin, death, friction, church hypocrisy, Catholicism, the Black Church, and the difference between disagreeing with somebody and believing you have the right to co...
The Abandoned Son and the Caged Daughter: How Childhood Wounds Shape Love
2026-06-25. The conversation delves into the meeting of two survivors of childhood trauma and the impact of family dynamics on their psychological development. It explores the daughter's upbringing, the son's experience, their initial meeting, the unconscious dance of projection and defense, inner work and healing, conscious naming and neural integration, and the process of building a new sanctuary. Takeaways Survivors of chi...
Adam, Eve, and Black Love
2026-06-25. The conversation delves into the psychological exploration of love, archetypes, and the impact of systemic trauma on African American relationships. It highlights the suppression of vulnerability, the projection of toxic media narratives, and the importance of reclaiming projections and inner gold. The journey of reconciliation, shared vulnerability, and the symbolism of the Mandorla in relationships are emphasize...
Psychology Of The Abandoned Son
2026-06-24. The episode explores the psychological impact of father absence on sons, delving into the themes of abandonment, silence, overachievement, rebellion, mother-son dynamics, the search for masculine guidance, impact on intimate relationships, the shadow side of abandonment, literary archetypes, the necessity of forgiveness, reparenting and inner healing, breaking the generational curse, and transformation and resilie...
Black Mothers, Black Daughters, and What We Inherit
2026-06-24. The toxic mother-daughter dynamic in black households is a complex and multi-layered issue, shaped by history, trauma, and the struggle for survival. It involves the interplay of strength, control, and the internalization of external sieges. Liberation from this dynamic is a revolutionary act of reclaiming one's humanity and breaking free from the cage of inherited pain. Takeaways Toxic mother-daughter dynamics in...
Trauma Bonds, Proverbs 21, and Christ | KimYaps
2026-05-24. In this episode of KimYaps, Kiminou Knox talks through trauma bonds, Proverbs 21, love, healing, and what it means to let Christ correct the way we understand safety, attachment, and freedom. KimYaps is hosted by Kiminou Knox, a Bay Area raised, New Orleans based author and poet of ten published books, speaker, and youth-centered builder. Start here: https://www.kiminouknox.com/start-here Podcast home: https://www...
Trauma Bonds and Jesus | KimYaps
2026-05-09. Kiminou Knox unpacks trauma bonds, confusion, pain, relief, and the difference between attachment that keeps you stuck and the love of Jesus that tells the truth and makes room for healing. KimYaps is hosted by Kiminou Knox, a Bay Area raised, New Orleans based author and poet of ten published books, speaker, and youth-centered builder. Start here: https://www.kiminouknox.com/start-here Podcast home: https://www.k...
What We Inherit: Generational Trauma and Healing | KimYaps
2026-04-15. This KimYaps episode explores cultural inheritance, intergenerational trauma, family patterns, emotional baggage, and the work of breaking cycles without pretending the weight was never real. KimYaps is hosted by Kiminou Knox, a Bay Area raised, New Orleans based author and poet of ten published books, speaker, and youth-centered builder. Start here: https://www.kiminouknox.com/start-here Podcast home: https://www...